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Positive Spirit Contact: How the Other Side Can Help & Heal

By Deborah Kauflin, Ph.D.

For some people, the idea that spirits are around us is scary. They think of horror movies like the Exorcist and worry that any bump in the night is a monster trying to hurt them. Though there are some negative spirit contacts, there are many more good spirit visits.

Most spirits that I come across are pleasant, funny, and very helpful. They want to assist the living and prove that life goes on. As a psychic medium, I’ve seen first-hand how spirit contact can even save a life.

I am a retired criminal profiler, and for many years I worked with parents of murdered children. When they learned that I was a medium as well as a profiler, they told me wonderful stories of how their loved ones came to them after death just when they needed it.

A woman named Lucy* has lost her son when he was abducted and murdered by a serial killer. Her life fell apart after that horrible event. She ended up getting a divorce because all she and her husband could do was fight and blame each other for what happened. With all her emotional issues, she had difficulty holding her job and eventually lost it. Even family could not get through to her as she shut out the world.

She said that she really couldn’t see a reason to go on. She had lost her reason for living, and she just wanted it to be over. At her lowest point, she planned her own suicide. Many thoughts filled her mind as to various ways to take her life. After much thought, she decided on overdosing on medication.

On a cold February day, she went into her closet where she was prepared to end it. She had her pills and pictures of her son. She said she was shaking as she sat on the floor and cried. As she picked up her pill bottle, she heard her son’s voice. It was clear as day. She was sure of it. Then she heard it again. “Mommy, I’m here.” It was there; she had heard it twice. It was at this point that a bright light appeared above her head. It was roundish and glowing. She broke down in tears and laid on the floor looking up at the light which was hovering in her closet.

Right then, her phone rang, and it kept ringing. It wouldn’t stop. Eventually she got up and answered. It was her mother who was also crying. Her mother said she had heard her dead grandson’s voice telling her that Lucy was going to kill herself. Both women cried as Lucy admitted what she was doing and that she too had heard her son’s voice and seen a light. The women were overwhelmed. Through tears, Lucy’s mother told her that her son was obviously still here, and suicide was not the answer.

With all that, Lucy realized that she could go on. She knew, absolutely knew, that her son was still with her. Not only that, she knew that he was watching over her.

It was after this contact that her life turned around. That night when she went to bed, she dreamed of her son. He was beaming and all smiles. In the dream (which was obviously a spirit contact) he told his mother that she needed to live and make a difference in the world. He said he would be waiting for her, but she needed to live her life.

She said when she woke up, she hadn’t felt that good in years. Her pain had lessened, and she felt invigorated. As was typical, she went to make some coffee, and as she sat at the kitchen table to drink it, she about fell out of her chair. Standing right at her sliding glass door was a large lizard. Lucy lives in the Southwest and lizards are common, but this guy was big. Her son had loved lizards and kept them as pets. It stood there staring at her for several minutes, and she knew this was a sign from her son. She had never seen one quite like this one. It was so big and wouldn’t leave. Finally, she got up to refill her coffee, and when she turned around, it was gone.

Lucy truly was affected by her spirit contact. As she said, her son ‘saved her life.’ The contact allowed her to move out of her grief and start again. After getting herself together, she volunteered to foster animals for an animal rescue which was a life-long dream of hers. Though she misses her son every day, she knows he is still with her. And she knows that her spirit will go on once she crosses over.

Her story is not unique. A lot of parents of murdered children have told me similar stories. It shows how vital afterlife contact can be.  So not all things that go bump in the night are scary. Some occurrences are loved ones stopping by to say ‘hello,’ while other contacts may simply be spirits of people who had lived on your property.

Spirit visits can be healing and give you peace that you wouldn’t know otherwise. They literally can be the difference between life and death. For those of you who are afraid, don’t let fear get the better of you, for most spirits out there are friendly. And when life gets you down, remember that there is more than this life.

If you have had such contact, please contact me. I keep your information confidential. Email: deborahkauflin @ gmail.com

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You may be giving permission for alien abduction (and not even know it!)

by Deborah Kauflin, Ph.D.

Are you an alien experiencer? You may be and not even know it. Strange things have happened here to a lot of people, and they are afraid to talk about it. I’ve spoken with over one hundred abductees and contactees. This article focuses on those who are taken at night or against their conscious will.

Most of these people have spotty memories of being taken by alien creatures and being experimented on. The majority are terrified of these memories, but there is much more to this than witness recall.

A large number of abductees have physical evidence of their abductions. They wake with unexplained marks on their body. Scars will appear overnight. Sometimes there are areas of their bodies which have been shaved or their hair has been cut.

For others, all of a sudden, they will begin writing or speaking in different languages when they couldn’t before. At once, they become more psychic, and there are some who become healers as a result. Likewise, some will suddenly know information that they shouldn’t such as advanced math or physics when they never studied these subjects before.

While that part doesn’t sound so bad, there are many negative aftershocks for a number of abductees. They suffer from radiation burns, sudden health problems, insomnia, and post-traumatic stress disorder. There are no ‘gifts’ for these victims, only pain. This basically says that some aliens are benevolent while others are selfish and negative.

If you have had a good contact, there is always the looming question of ‘experience’ while you sleep or against your conscious will. Some experiencers have found that in hypnosis they are able to recall giving permission for their contacts while asleep. The aliens communicated that they are working with our unconscious to impact our consciousness in order to prepare us for the eventual reveal of what is out there.

However, it doesn’t matter if your unconscious grants permission if your life has been turned upside down. If your conscious has not granted permission, then it is against your will. It like the sex predator who gives the victim a date-rape drug which alters her ability to give consent. She cannot give conscious consent; therefore, consent is not given. This is the same type of situation.

Though some may feel it is all right if they give consent unconsciously, many more feel that it is invasive and unacceptable.

And we must ask the question, if visiting aliens were truly benevolent and have the ability to cure illness or stop violence, how could they sit back and allow such things as torture, rape, murder, cancer, and all kinds of horrors that infest this Earth. Furthermore, if they are simply kind beings, then why hide? The general rule is, if you are on the up and up, then you do not hide things. This raises serious questions about the alien agenda.

In cases where witnesses are able to recall communication, they report the aliens had said that they operate this way because they do not completely understand humans. We are a part of their research. This statement alone is frightening.

Now there are cases involving people who have very pleasant experiences with aliens. For these people, they get a sense of peace and even healing. Their lives are improved. For those people, this is a wonderful thing. But why don’t they heal everyone? Why not make everyone better? That is a very good question, and only the aliens could answer that.

What is clear is that there are some evil entities operating on Earth, and they are causing harm to humans. They may be using the excuse of ‘well you gave unconscious permission, so we can do what we want.’ Of course, if you are being harmed, then you know that you never gave permission for that.

If you have had such an experience, please contact me. I keep your information confidential. Email: deborahkauflin @ gmail.com

When Sex with a Ghost Goes Bad

By Deborah Kauflin, Ph.D.

I know this title will get a few laughs. After all, who could believe that anyone could have sex with a spirit? Isn’t that stuff all made up anyway?

You may not believe it, but people DO have sex with otherworldly beings. These people actually feel the genitalia of the entities and the sensation of having sex. Many of them welcome the amorous behavior from a frisky spirit. What they don’t realize is that this is how a lot of bad hauntings begin.

In some cases, young and sometimes cocky individuals call on a ghost, thinking they will have wild sex and a good time. In other cases, lonely, hurt, and depressed people reach out for spirit sex because they feel unattractive and unloved. In either situation, those doing this truly don’t understand what they are dealing with and what could possibly happen. After all, if you are making love to something you can’t see, then you don’t even know what is touching you. It could be a lonely ghost, a curious alien, or something even more sinister. Would you really want to take the chance that your lover could be a monster?

I know some people have reported extremely pleasurable sexual experiences with spirits. I’ve spoken with those people, mostly women, who said that sex with a spirit was the best sex they ever had. There was no fear involved when it was happening, and they were not hurt. In the majority of those cases, the sex was a one- time thing. They didn’t call on the ghost. The ghost came to them. Plus, there was no negative paranormal activity afterward. It was like a one and done sort of thing.

Yes, there are cases where people claim to have long term sexual fun with a spirit that never evolves into anything sinister. These are rare situations which people are quite reluctant to talk about.

Most times, when the sex turns into a sexual relationship, problems ensue. The human and entity become lovers where sex is mutually desired. In the beginning, both spirit and human can’t get enough. The sex is described as more than amazing. As one woman said “the ghost could touch me all over and make me feel pleasure in every way, in a way a human male never could.”

So, the person becomes addicted to the sex, and the entity appears to be friendly.  The addiction part is a clue that something is wrong. The situation becomes tricky and dangerous at this point. Here you have a spirit lover who you can’t see, and you don’t know who or what it is. Since you don’t know who or what it is, then you can’t know how it will respond when you are not available or you want to move on. You don’t know what plan the entity has.

If all you have is a lonely ghost, the entity can become jealous of a spouse or others in your life. He or she can become demanding and expect sex all the time. I was told by those who experienced this that the spirit wouldn’t let them sleep. The entity wanted sex day and night and was forceful and sometimes violent when it didn’t get its way. And then rape would occur. The pleasure turned into pain. And in these cases, it becomes extremely difficult to remove the spirit because the entity is attached to and wants that particular human. Because of this, the spirit becomes loud and difficult in the home. Without sleep coupled with the sex attacks, the victims’ lives spin out of control. This is just the ghost scenario.

Now think of something even worse. When a dark spirit is involved, not only will rape take place, but the victims will suffer torture. Their lives get ruined, as in any dark haunting. Relationships are destroyed, victims are put into physical danger, and few believe them when they are brave enough to talk about what is happening.

The bad spirits use sex as bait. Knowing who is vulnerable, they wait in the darkness for some gullible individual to call them. They come across as sweet at first, fulfilling your desires. But that doesn’t last long. Just like the example above, the spirit demands attention all the time. Sleep becomes impossible, and the victim gets raped in various ways.

Moreover, victims gets punched, scratched, and weird accidents happen in their homes. Dangerous leaks occur, or things catch on fire. And these attacks and accidents happen repeatedly. The victim gets no rest. Support is driven away because who wants to be around some crazy person who has weird violent stuff happening in his/her house?

Because nothing goes right in their lives, they burn out and become a total mess. Health gets affected due to the constant state of anxiety and lack of sleep. And when help is sought, few know how to assist them.

These are the types of cases that are very hard to deal with due to the strong attachment. Though it may be difficult to understand, some victims of these attacks don’t want the spirit to leave. They are drawn and connected to the spirit even though it is ruining their lives. With that, they stand in their own way to freedom and keep the spirit with them. It may not make sense, but it is kind of like a person in an abusive relationship. They can’t let go and put up with abuse.

Those who won’t let go continue having their lives affected, and it never turns out well. But even when victims do want the spirits to go, it is not easy. When something is invited and becomes intimate, there is an additional bond which is hard to break. In these cases, victims need very specialized help. They have to want the help and want the spirit gone. Even with such help, some cases do not get resolved. It is like the spirit has claimed that person and will never let go.

Cleansings, blessings, and exorcisms have been sought out in such situations. Usually it takes more than one attempt to make progress. If you are dealing with this, seek out professional help. Get checked out by a doctor to make sure your health is all right. Have your home checked for environmental problems and look at your medications to make sure you are not simply experiencing some side effect. You ALWAYS want to get yourself examined by a doctor if you are going through something like this to make sure that something physical or emotional isn’t going on. When you rule out these things, it can help you be clear that you are dealing with the paranormal. This can aid you in getting the help that you need because most professionals in the paranormal field will want to ensure that you have been to a doctor and had an environmental check before they come out. Simply doing these things help you get back some control of your life. Always get references and investigate any professional that you call for help. Get their plan so that you know they won’t abandon you after simply documenting evidence. A good paranormal group will help you through the whole process, before and after an investigation.

If you have experienced this, then know you are not alone. Strange things happen in this world, and there is more out there than meets the eyes.

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