By Deborah Kauflin, Ph.D.
I know this title will get a few laughs. After all, who could believe that anyone could have sex with a spirit? Isn’t that stuff all made up anyway?
You may not believe it, but people DO have sex with otherworldly beings. These people actually feel the genitalia of the entities and the sensation of having sex. Many of them welcome the amorous behavior from a frisky spirit. What they don’t realize is that this is how a lot of bad hauntings begin.
In some cases, young and sometimes cocky individuals call on a ghost, thinking they will have wild sex and a good time. In other cases, lonely, hurt, and depressed people reach out for spirit sex because they feel unattractive and unloved. In either situation, those doing this truly don’t understand what they are dealing with and what could possibly happen. After all, if you are making love to something you can’t see, then you don’t even know what is touching you. It could be a lonely ghost, a curious alien, or something even more sinister. Would you really want to take the chance that your lover could be a monster?
I know some people have reported extremely pleasurable sexual experiences with spirits. I’ve spoken with those people, mostly women, who said that sex with a spirit was the best sex they ever had. There was no fear involved when it was happening, and they were not hurt. In the majority of those cases, the sex was a one- time thing. They didn’t call on the ghost. The ghost came to them. Plus, there was no negative paranormal activity afterward. It was like a one and done sort of thing.
Yes, there are cases where people claim to have long term sexual fun with a spirit that never evolves into anything sinister. These are rare situations which people are quite reluctant to talk about.
Most times, when the sex turns into a sexual relationship, problems ensue. The human and entity become lovers where sex is mutually desired. In the beginning, both spirit and human can’t get enough. The sex is described as more than amazing. As one woman said “the ghost could touch me all over and make me feel pleasure in every way, in a way a human male never could.”
So, the person becomes addicted to the sex, and the entity appears to be friendly. The addiction part is a clue that something is wrong. The situation becomes tricky and dangerous at this point. Here you have a spirit lover who you can’t see, and you don’t know who or what it is. Since you don’t know who or what it is, then you can’t know how it will respond when you are not available or you want to move on. You don’t know what plan the entity has.
If all you have is a lonely ghost, the entity can become jealous of a spouse or others in your life. He or she can become demanding and expect sex all the time. I was told by those who experienced this that the spirit wouldn’t let them sleep. The entity wanted sex day and night and was forceful and sometimes violent when it didn’t get its way. And then rape would occur. The pleasure turned into pain. And in these cases, it becomes extremely difficult to remove the spirit because the entity is attached to and wants that particular human. Because of this, the spirit becomes loud and difficult in the home. Without sleep coupled with the sex attacks, the victims’ lives spin out of control. This is just the ghost scenario.
Now think of something even worse. When a dark spirit is involved, not only will rape take place, but the victims will suffer torture. Their lives get ruined, as in any dark haunting. Relationships are destroyed, victims are put into physical danger, and few believe them when they are brave enough to talk about what is happening.
The bad spirits use sex as bait. Knowing who is vulnerable, they wait in the darkness for some gullible individual to call them. They come across as sweet at first, fulfilling your desires. But that doesn’t last long. Just like the example above, the spirit demands attention all the time. Sleep becomes impossible, and the victim gets raped in various ways.
Moreover, victims gets punched, scratched, and weird accidents happen in their homes. Dangerous leaks occur, or things catch on fire. And these attacks and accidents happen repeatedly. The victim gets no rest. Support is driven away because who wants to be around some crazy person who has weird violent stuff happening in his/her house?
Because nothing goes right in their lives, they burn out and become a total mess. Health gets affected due to the constant state of anxiety and lack of sleep. And when help is sought, few know how to assist them.
These are the types of cases that are very hard to deal with due to the strong attachment. Though it may be difficult to understand, some victims of these attacks don’t want the spirit to leave. They are drawn and connected to the spirit even though it is ruining their lives. With that, they stand in their own way to freedom and keep the spirit with them. It may not make sense, but it is kind of like a person in an abusive relationship. They can’t let go and put up with abuse.
Those who won’t let go continue having their lives affected, and it never turns out well. But even when victims do want the spirits to go, it is not easy. When something is invited and becomes intimate, there is an additional bond which is hard to break. In these cases, victims need very specialized help. They have to want the help and want the spirit gone. Even with such help, some cases do not get resolved. It is like the spirit has claimed that person and will never let go.
Cleansings, blessings, and exorcisms have been sought out in such situations. Usually it takes more than one attempt to make progress. If you are dealing with this, seek out professional help. Get checked out by a doctor to make sure your health is all right. Have your home checked for environmental problems and look at your medications to make sure you are not simply experiencing some side effect. You ALWAYS want to get yourself examined by a doctor if you are going through something like this to make sure that something physical or emotional isn’t going on. When you rule out these things, it can help you be clear that you are dealing with the paranormal. This can aid you in getting the help that you need because most professionals in the paranormal field will want to ensure that you have been to a doctor and had an environmental check before they come out. Simply doing these things help you get back some control of your life. Always get references and investigate any professional that you call for help. Get their plan so that you know they won’t abandon you after simply documenting evidence. A good paranormal group will help you through the whole process, before and after an investigation.
If you have experienced this, then know you are not alone. Strange things happen in this world, and there is more out there than meets the eyes.
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